Real name Omotunde Adebowale-David. She is a Mother of four who has carved a niche for herself in the Comedy Industry. Apart from being an award winning radio host she is also popular for her role as Adaku in Jenifa's diary. She shared her inspiring Unfiltered story to reach out to others who might be feeling the way she felt while growing up. "My Unfiltered Story" is a platform introduced by Relationship Expert and Business coach Jimi Tewe, where you share true life story of the journey of your life together with the present transformation of what you have become.
"(Part 1/2) I am what you would call a late bloomer.
I was a fat child and the biggest of all my sisters. I'm also the darkest. I felt disadvantaged and when I was in secondary school, I was bullied. Students would pour water on all the chairs and call me a milk factory. I felt inadequate and like I had to over-compensate. I would do anything to make people like me; anything to make them look beyond my physical body. And so, I was self-serving and people-serving for a very long time. It was a toxic way to live. I coasted along in my Law degree at university just because it was what my parents wanted. I was content with being an average student. I could have excelled, but I felt 2.2 was enough. I didn’t push as hard as I could have.
My Christian life began quite early and that even made me more closed off. My life revolved around church, fellowship and home. I had very low self-esteem and didn’t really explore many areas of my personality or interests. I would smile at everyone, but inside I thought, “Maybe she's looking at me because I'm fat and that's why she doesn't want to be close to me or be my friend. Maybe if I try hard and like everything she does, she would like me." All these issues reached a peak when I got married.
I got married because everybody around me was getting married and it was the Christian thing to do. I wanted to do it right before God and be a virgin till I married. My very low self-esteem affected my choice at the time and I did my husband a disservice too. When you have an unhealthy self-esteem and you join yourself with another person, you're going to bring pain and hardship to the other party.
I don’t blame myself or my partner for my marriage ending. When I started to deal with my issues, I knew the marriage could not continue. I left so that he could heal and I could heal & deal with myself. #Unfiltered #RealStories #WhatsYourStory"